Well it's almost 2015, and I said I was not going to make a new years resolution this year. I think i'll just find 2 or a few words that will be my mantra for the year. Like: 'let it go', 'be courageous', think big', walk away', you go girl'. Something like that, because NY resolutions fade away after February.
I am really most grateful my family, friends and I are all safe and healthy. I pray it stays that way. I will go in the New Year with a new job, closer to home, with a good salary, a decent shift and a very convenient schedule.
What are your NY resolutions?
Happy Early New Year!!!
Tuesday, December 30, 2014
Sunday, December 7, 2014
Stop wasting my life time
I really hate starting over. Spending time with someone, getting to know them, our families blending, attachments, lust, love and connections. Are all ways in which potential life partners connect, but when it ends; it seems like a huge waste of my life I can not get back.
Its easy to say, well its just preparation for Mr. Right. Its hard to throw those feelings away, act as if it was nothing and move along!! But is there really any other way around it?
I don't think so, if you know a way holla at ya girl
#IfIHaven'tSaidItLately
I Love You
Monday, September 29, 2014
Church, All Inclusive
Hey, This is my final draft of my academic essay, please give me feedback.
Single adults are a very diverse group of people; ranging from never married, divorced, widowed to engaged or just in a commitment. Single individuals span from several groups with different fears, experiences and motivations. “Out of the divorces, widowhood, the singles bars, clubs, apartments and condominiums, comes a torrent of need, and its flowing right past the doors of our churches…there is a boundless talent and creativity in this flood of single adults. The church can help and it can also be helped. It can give and it can receive.” (Edward & Gwen Weising, Authors of Singleness-An Opportunity for Growth and Fulfillment)
Every group of people in the church has unique needs, children, youth, men, women and married couples. Single adults feel forgotten. Single adult ministries are popping up in churches all over the nation serving the spiritual, educational and emotional needs of the growing number of single men and women.
Single adults would like the church to realize that not all adults are married. They want and need to feel accepted in the church. We all have the same basic spiritual need but, many unmarried adults feel an emptiness and desire for the spiritual life, and want to be part of the church family.
There are 97 million unmarried adults according to the 2006 U.S. census. Many of these adults find it difficult to fit in churches. The issue is many times individuals find it difficult to experience a genuine comfort in church; that many times are marriage and family focused.
Unmarried individuals are more educated than before, therefore more independent. More people are now raised to be more self-sufficient, to stay in school and get a good education; which will ensure a better life. Our generation is not automatically taught to find a partner, get married, have a bunch of kids and live happily ever after. People are raised to better themselves, to fulfill their own dreams, ambitions and goals first. By pursuing our own independence, single adults may put off marriage and children until later in life. By being so independent, some single individuals become self-absorbed, and don’t know how to necessarily serve others. Therefore, they have an educational need from the church for teaching and discussions about The Bible, The Holy Spirit, salvation, prayer and discipline. They have a need and desire to be taught by likewise people, single people which whom they have something in common with.
As more Single Adult Ministries form we have to organize events, social clubs, support groups and gospel to all people. No one group should be singled or stigmatized. Single adults need support groups maybe even more than married couples who have each other. Most church events relate more to married adults than singles; whom have their own unique challenges and deserve to be a part of groups with those who can empathize with them. We can really flourish and support all if churches come together and create divorce recovery, crisis recovery, and single parent support groups and touch on specific issues such as; career direction, loneliness, forgiveness and others.
Some have questioned the need for a Single Adult Ministry but those gripes usually come from married people who don’t essentially remember or understand the feeling of being a single one. The need for this kind of ministry is strong because as a people, everyone wants to be loved and to belong. Most singles feel left out and most importantly, misunderstood. This is not necessarily always the intention of the Pastor and church leaders. But the reality is; America has become a nation of many family types; and to be an effective leadership churches must start to demonstrate openness, understanding and acceptance and supporting the spiritual, educational and emotional needs of single adults.
Single adults are a very diverse group of people; ranging from never married, divorced, widowed to engaged or just in a commitment. Single individuals span from several groups with different fears, experiences and motivations. “Out of the divorces, widowhood, the singles bars, clubs, apartments and condominiums, comes a torrent of need, and its flowing right past the doors of our churches…there is a boundless talent and creativity in this flood of single adults. The church can help and it can also be helped. It can give and it can receive.” (Edward & Gwen Weising, Authors of Singleness-An Opportunity for Growth and Fulfillment)
Every group of people in the church has unique needs, children, youth, men, women and married couples. Single adults feel forgotten. Single adult ministries are popping up in churches all over the nation serving the spiritual, educational and emotional needs of the growing number of single men and women.
Single adults would like the church to realize that not all adults are married. They want and need to feel accepted in the church. We all have the same basic spiritual need but, many unmarried adults feel an emptiness and desire for the spiritual life, and want to be part of the church family.
There are 97 million unmarried adults according to the 2006 U.S. census. Many of these adults find it difficult to fit in churches. The issue is many times individuals find it difficult to experience a genuine comfort in church; that many times are marriage and family focused.
Unmarried individuals are more educated than before, therefore more independent. More people are now raised to be more self-sufficient, to stay in school and get a good education; which will ensure a better life. Our generation is not automatically taught to find a partner, get married, have a bunch of kids and live happily ever after. People are raised to better themselves, to fulfill their own dreams, ambitions and goals first. By pursuing our own independence, single adults may put off marriage and children until later in life. By being so independent, some single individuals become self-absorbed, and don’t know how to necessarily serve others. Therefore, they have an educational need from the church for teaching and discussions about The Bible, The Holy Spirit, salvation, prayer and discipline. They have a need and desire to be taught by likewise people, single people which whom they have something in common with.
As more Single Adult Ministries form we have to organize events, social clubs, support groups and gospel to all people. No one group should be singled or stigmatized. Single adults need support groups maybe even more than married couples who have each other. Most church events relate more to married adults than singles; whom have their own unique challenges and deserve to be a part of groups with those who can empathize with them. We can really flourish and support all if churches come together and create divorce recovery, crisis recovery, and single parent support groups and touch on specific issues such as; career direction, loneliness, forgiveness and others.
Some have questioned the need for a Single Adult Ministry but those gripes usually come from married people who don’t essentially remember or understand the feeling of being a single one. The need for this kind of ministry is strong because as a people, everyone wants to be loved and to belong. Most singles feel left out and most importantly, misunderstood. This is not necessarily always the intention of the Pastor and church leaders. But the reality is; America has become a nation of many family types; and to be an effective leadership churches must start to demonstrate openness, understanding and acceptance and supporting the spiritual, educational and emotional needs of single adults.
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
Get it together
Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.
Monday, June 23, 2014
At this moment
Usually when things are going good I keep quiet so the devil won't hear me and try to screw it up. But I have got to admit, no matter what happens with me and J i hope I can always look back and say "i'm glad I met him".
When we are up; we are up, cupid flies around shooting arrows in our butts for days/weeks. And when we are at odds chile......................watch out!!!
We fight hard (not physical) I really care about this man and if he gets off track with compromising, being inconsiderate or whatever; I put his ass right back in line!! And he does the same with me.
We've been getting along so well lately I just had to tell the world "I love my boo" "my suga bear"😜
Friday, June 6, 2014
Wednesday, April 2, 2014
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